Self-pleasure and Self-love

Humans are complicated creatures but we know one thing for sure—loving ourselves is non-negotiable. We know that guilt and shame do absolutely nothing for us.  So, this year we are ditching the resolutions and trading them for dedication! 


This New Year, we want to remind you to make yourself a priority! We've compiled a list of 31 ideas to help inspire your self-love journey for this month, year, and beyond...


Self-love checklist

  1. Take a relaxing bath or shower.
  2. Meditate or practice mindfulness.
  3. Engage in physical activity or exercise.
  4. Get enough sleep.
  5. Eat a healthy and balanced diet.
  6. Practice good hygiene.
  7. Seek out social support and connection.
  8. Spend time in nature.
  9. Practice gratitude and positive thinking.
  10. Seek out new hobbies or activities that bring joy and pleasure.
  11. Set boundaries and learn to say no when necessary.
  12. Seek therapy or counseling if needed.
  13. Forgive yourself for past mistakes and let go of self-judgment.
  14. Practice self-compassion and be kind to yourself.
  15. Take time for self-care and rest.
  16. Engage in activities that bring a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment.
  17. Seek out opportunities for personal growth and development.
  18. Practice good self-care habits, such as maintaining good posture and taking breaks from screens.
  19. Seek out education and resources to help you better understand and care for yourself.
  20. Prioritize your own needs and wants.
  21. Engage in activities that help you relax and de-stress.
  22. Practice deep breathing or other relaxation techniques.
  23. Seek out supportive and healthy relationships.
  24. Seek out ways to challenge and stretch yourself in a positive way.
  25. Take time to pamper yourself and do something special for yourself.
  26. Practice self-acceptance and self-love.
  27. Seek out opportunities to give back and help others.
  28. Engage in creative expression, such as writing, painting, or drawing.
  29. Set goals and work towards achieving them.
  30. Seek out activities that bring a sense of purpose and meaning to your life.
  31. Practice self-care and self-love every day.


And if you're looking for something "spicier".... Well, we have that for you too 😉

  1. Go on a condom scavenger hunt and see how many different types and brands you can find.
  2. Host a movie night and watch a film that deals with sexual health or relationships.
  3. Attend a workshop or seminar on a topic related to sexual health that interests you.
  4. Make your own DIY lubricant using natural ingredients.
  5. Take a bath or shower together and make it a sensual and relaxing experience.
  6. Have a sexy photo shoot with your partner and get creative with props and settings.
  7. Play a board game or card game that involves answering questions about sexual health and relationships.
  8. Go on a date to a sex toy store and explore all the different products together.
  9. Attend a sex-positive event or party and meet new people with similar interests.
  10. Read a book or listen to a podcast about sexual health and discuss it with your partner.
  11. Try out a new sexual position or technique and see how it feels.
  12. Get creative in the bedroom and try out role-playing or other forms of sexual exploration.
  13. Go on a hike or take a walk and have a picnic in a secluded spot where you can talk openly about sexual health and intimacy.
  14. Take a class or workshop together on a topic related to sexual health, such as tantra or BDSM.
  15. Experiment with different forms of touch and sensation play, such as using feathers or massage oils.
  16. Create a vision board or collage with images and words that inspire you to prioritize sexual health and well-being.
  17. Have a fun and flirty photo shoot together and share the pictures with each other.
  18. Play a truth or dare game that involves answering questions or trying new things related to sexual health and relationships.
  19. Write a list of fantasies or desires and share them with each other, then try to make them a reality.
  20. Take a dance class or go to a club and dance together in a way that feels sexy and empowering.
  21. Try out a new type of birth control and see how it works for you.
  22. Go on a sex toy shopping spree and explore all the different options together.
  23. Take a yoga class or go on a hike and connect with your body and sensuality in a natural setting.
  24. Go to a sex-positive festival or conference and learn about new ideas and techniques.
  25. Have a romantic and intimate dinner at home, focusing on conversation and connection rather than just the food.
  26. Create a playlist of songs that make you feel sexy and confident and listen to it together.
  27. Experiment with different types of touch and sensation play, such as using ice or hot wax.
  28. Write a list of goals related to sexual health and well-being and work towards achieving them together.
  29. Take a trip or weekend getaway and make it a theme around sexual exploration and relaxation.
  30. Have a fun and flirty photo shoot with a professional photographer and use the pictures for your own pleasure or as a gift for your partner.
  31. Try out a new sexual activity or fetish and see how it feels.



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